One Month of Freddie

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We’ve had our Freddie for just over a month now and what we’ve learned this month is that the first lesson in parenthood is to go back to your pre-child self, have a gin and tonic and tell yourself to loosen up, all things you think you know about babies- well your baby is going to shit all over that and let you know that he is the boss.

Because around this house, at least for these first few months, Freddie is the boss. Want to go for a walk? Freddie doesn’t. Want to go to sleep? Freddie doesn’t. Want to take a bath? Freddie wants to go for a walk. We’ve looked for the instruction manual, and these babies don’t come with one, so we are learning as we go. It’s wonderful and terrifying. It  feels like the best thing you’ve ever done and then he doesn’t stop crying and you feel like a failure.

Motherhood is all these things and he can’t even slam his bedroom door and tell me he hates me, or run to me for a hug. But today I got my first real smile and the love that you feel from that is, just breathtaking.

So here is the good, the bad and the breathtaking of our first month with Freddie. Like all new parents we’ve had our share of vomit, shitsplosians and cuddles from our king kong sized baby.

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Wehadababyitsaboy Meet Freddie!

We’ve had a baby its a boy! World, meet Freddie

Image by Rebecca Douglas Photography - www.rebeccadouglas.co.uk

We’ve been in this blissful new baby bubble the past 2 weeks, where days roll in to one and turn in to weeks. Our Freddie John Simmons Durrant was born on the 24th of Jan weighing in at a generous 9 lb 10 oz. He is absolutely beautiful to us and after staying in our Freddie cocoon for 2 weeks, I now feel ready to introduce Freddie to the world.

With that large of a baby (especially for the first child) the first thing any woman thinks of is the armageddon of the vagina that must have ensued at his birth- don’t worry ladies the money maker is still in tact- this baby was only coming out through the sunroof. Although, it took us 72 hours in labour before this became apparent.

That’s right, 72 hours. He was big, back-to-back and not dropping down my cervix, with his head cocked the wrong angle.  That playlist was bullshit. So is Ina May Gaskin- burn her books. No amount of hippy motivation or hynobirthing would’ve helped. Despite consistent and intense contractions, this kid was not budging. I don’t know if that means he is very stubborn or very lazy, but he was very stuck. In some ways not having the vaginal birth makes me feel like less of a woman, but thank god for modern medicine and a kick-ass midwife team (gooooooo NHS).

Freddie is ready for visitors now. To be honest, I wasn’t ready at first. All sorts of emotions happen with a new baby, there is this intense love that you’ve never felt before and couldn’t imagine, as well as this new vulnerability that makes you feel very fragile. I needed time to get my head around all of this and  we needed to get to know our new son.

So friends, meet our Freddie. He is a little bruiser, who likes cuddles, late nights and boobs. And to us, he is perfect in every single way.

All photos from the fabulous Rebecca Douglas

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